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On another, they decided her cooking wasn’t up to snuff.
I couldn’t help but notice that, even as both in-laws spoke, my Chinese mother-in-law supported the brunt of these indictments.
A great deal is heard of the tyranny and cruelty of these mothers-in-law, and there is firm basis of fact for all that is so often said upon that point.
But it must at the same time be borne in mind that without her the Chinese family would go to utter ruin.
Unfortunately, the girl broke things off immediately.
“She worries very much for the mother-in-law relationship,” admitted Peter, with some chagrin.
“She buys them on a whim, wears them once, and then brings them over here — and never wears them again.” Then, smiling towards me, she added, “you should wear them.” It was a lonely pile of clothes, desperate to be worn.
But I couldn’t shake the feeling that this was more than just housekeeping — because Da Sao was becoming infamous during our dinnertime conversations.
Consider this example in the same post cited above, from China Live Hope: The classmate asked her boyfriend to get her a drink of water, and the boyfriend (foolish boy) asked his mother to get him a drink of water (intending to give it to his girlfriend)….
While living in the in-laws’ Chinese household, Hueying’s mother, the Japanese outsider, suffers in silence while playing the role of the traditional daughter-in-law until her resentment brews against her own daughter, Hueying.
Of course, not all daughters-in-law must endure silent rejection, abuse or worse at the hands of their Chinese mothers-in-law.
During Chinese New Year earlier this year, Peter told his girlfriend his mother would eventually move in with them, if they ever married.
Peter had good reasons for it — she lives in poverty in Southern Henan Province; and since he’s the oldest son, he feels an obligation to care for her.
And my Chinese mother-in-law was anxious to clear them away.