Dating different men
"It's possible that you may bump into someone who is age appropriate who wants the same things, but it's difficult to navigate the apps when it comes to figuring out the other person's goals. " Brandyce Stephenson, the owner of a marketing consulting business and self-proclaimed "single gal in her 30s" who lives in West Palm Beach, Florida agreed.
She told me that traditional dating apps don't have what she's looking for.
"Several of the women I'm currently working with report that they've set specific timelines for potential relationships.
They expect to discuss living together after nine months of dating and want to get engaged within 18 months," said Dr. "I often caution against these time-based goals, but ultimately, they're the experts in their own relationships." Rhonda Milrad, a licensed clinical social worker and founder of the relationship app Your Sage, agreed, telling me that after 30, people are looking for a life partner.
"Your pool of girlfriends also shrinks because many of them are now married and/or have children, so they are less inclined to want to go out for half-price Margaritas with you on a Tuesday." With fewer potential partners to choose from and no wing woman, things can be a little tough.
After 30, many experts agree that women are more interested in commitment than ever before.
"The 20-something scene typically means going to a loud bar to meet singles.
The 30 somethings tend to do activities they enjoy that offer exposure to other singles like, running groups, art classes or volunteering," said Jaime Bernstein, a senior matchmaker for the professional matchmaking startup Three Day Rule.
This isn't limited to women so you'll need to ready to deal with some baggage in your own potential partners too, like past relationships and maybe even kids from prior relationships.
"Finding some common ground and interest creates a deep bond faster." But how can you find new activities and meet new people with shared interests?
It turns out, networking isn't just for finding a new job!
"Cognitive development is done after the age of 25 and as executive functioning comes into play connecting today's actions with tomorrow's desires begins to be the driving force in healthy people's lives.
People discover what they want and start seeking partners who can give it to them." Because your goals after 30 may be quite different than your dating goals from your 20s, dating apps may not be the best bet for meeting people.
This can sometimes lead to fear in a new relationship, and past fears can haunt new relationships," said Candice A. "Combine this with the fact that we usually have more responsibilities in the 30s dating can be considered more difficult." When you're set in your ways and looking to find someone your own age, one of the best ways to do that may be doing something you love.